My mediation experience caused me to realize that most people have unrealistic expectations of what living with another person entails. There are some things we just don’t understand until we actually experience them. Even people who have
My mediation experience caused me to realize that most people have unrealistic expectations of what living with another person entails. There are some things we just don’t understand until we actually experience them. Even people who have already been married can repeat their previous unhappy experience.
Self-love and self-awareness are the first two areas we address in individual and couple counseling.
It is extremely important to know whether both people are willing to share responsibility for their relationship. It is also vital for a couple to sure they agree on essential points and values; so that they are not making assumptions that do not match reality.
I assist each person to clarify what is most important for them in their relationship and to establish a healthy communication style.
h person to clarify what is most important for them in their relationship and to establish a healthy communication style.
Heart Centered Couples Counseling
I have been teaching my clients how to connect the intellect in their hearts with the intellect in their heads, which I learned through HeartMath Institute. When each person is internally connected in that way, the conversations they have with each other are far more productive and they are much less likely to be controlled by strong emotion which makes it difficult or impossible to truly listen. Adding the sounds of the gongs or a crystal bowl for those who would like that further assists them to relax and respond rather than react.
It is necessary for all of us to see each other, since body language is an essential part of the communication. My clients are from other states and countries and we connect on both FaceTime, WhatsApp and Zoom.
I used to see clients in person, and find that people prefer the convenience of staying in their own home with no travel time involved. If a couple is local and would like to see me in person that is easily arranged.
Ongoing Communication Support
It can be very helpful for a couple to have support, as needed, from someone who is neutral. The honeymoon period ends when we suddenly notice behaviors or traits in the other we were magically blind to previously. Learning to love unconditionally is one of the biggest gifts and challenges of an intimate relationship. Happily married couples I have met, assured me they were always looking for ways to uplift their marriage.
Setting the Tone for the Wedding Day
Currently I am able to give sound baths over FaceTime and when it becomes possible for the full range of my gongs to be heard on Zoom, I will offer them there, as well. I gave soundbaths locally for six years, and a wonderful community formed. It’s a time of such major change now; sound baths are so supportive I want to make what I currently offer more available.
One of the highlights was playing for guests prior to a wedding ceremony near the California coast. Padding was laid on the floor and people also brought whatever they needed to be relaxed and comfortable lying down. Then we allowed the instrumental sounds to clear anything heavy from our hearts; so that together we could hold an open-hearted space for the lovely couple, who were about to be married.
Sound Bath Testimonials
“We loved having you play for our wedding—it was by far my favorite part of the weekend and made everyone so present and grounded for the rest of the day. We could really feel it!”
Ashlea S., Bride, NY
“Thank you for the healing sound bath prior to the wedding; it was so moving to have our hearts opened for Ryan and Ashlea in that way—I know I will never forget it.”Ingrid Lee, Writer, NY